We all, as humans are susceptible to this emotion called Anger. The degrees vary in all of us, but we all do feel anger. I think what differentiates the strong ones from the weak ones is the way they channel it or vent it and the way they justify it after they have displayed their anger in an abusive way. Some might actually feel sorry and take responsibility for their actions no matter what, others find circumstances and people to blame their so-called “reaction” on.
A friend once told me that people are fooling you if they told you that they lost “control” of themselves during anger. He said there is no such thing. What do you think? He went on to add that people might portray such a behavior to be excused for acting badly, but the truth is that they are aware of what they do. Some people might shot and swear, some may throw things, some might even hurt other people and in all of this if you take notice they are being selective.
Regardless of how people think of anger and its display, one thing is certain to me. Until the person exhibiting anger violently (in any form) does not take responsibility for his/her actions without blaming people or circumstances will never change for the better. He/She is doing a disservice to self by not accepting action and behavior that is one hundred percent his/her own.
Like I said before, we all our vulnerable to this emotion. What do you do when overcome by anger? Are you aware of the times you feel angered? How do you vent/channel it?
When I feel angered, I am actually very quiet, because I have seen first hand how people can hurt and ruin everything when overcome by anger. It is false if people say they cannot do anything about it, we all can! we can train ourselves to restrain control, practice self-control.
I usually close my eyes, try to think of all good things I have going for me, forgive the person (I posted something related last week on For-give-ness) that has wronged me and channel my hurt/frustration by engaging in either deep breathing or an activity such as cleaning or organizing or listening to music or going for a walk or run.
Before I leave, is it possible to overcome anger altogether? I think YES, what do you think? I had a related post: It’s all small stuff I think that one of the causes of anger is that some people think all the time or all people think sometimes that their life is one big emergency.